“The Shattering is the moment where everything familiar slips away. Our protective facades of familiarity spontaneously combust and we shun faith, deny comfort. We’re left voiceless regardless of our need to scream. We tread water in an ocean filled with every brilliant memory of what was only moments ago. Life has a cruel way of serving up The Shatterings, too. Nary a Google or Outlook Calendar would deign to accept the meeting and we’re left simply wondering

What. The F#!k. Happened?

Over the past seventeen months, I’ve become a student of that question. In the process, I’ve gone through even more Shatterings. And I’ve come to one invaluable realization: I’ve been asking the wrong question.

I shouldn’t concern myself with what happened. I should be asking, ‘What’s happening?’

By Erika Napoletano for ChangeThis.com